SEX SEMINAR PACKS A KICK
NY Post - October 5th, 2004

The latest women's self-defense class won't just show you how to throw punches - it'll teach you where your G Spot is. "How To Be A Butt-Kicking Bombshell in Ten Easy Steps," a two-hour seminar by sex-and-health educators Ducky DooLittle and Emily Stern, contends that you can't be good in the sack unless you know how to handle yourself in the outside world. "Sex, self-esteem and self-defense all effect each other," says DooLittle, whose goofy name seems a bit of a miss match for her voluptuous, Bettie Page-esque looks. DooLittle, a 34-year-old comedian and sexologist who started out as a peep-show girl ar Show World when she was 18, covers the racier topics in the seminar - like how to have stronger orgasms and how to be happy with your naked body. "Our first rule is not to compare yourself with anything or anyone," she asserts. "We do that all too often. It's futile. You are who you are!" DooLittle who put on 35 pounds several years ago, says she discovered the connection between strength and sexiness when she took a martial arts class to try and work off the weight. "It was amazing," she says, "to go there and fight, to learn how to react. It definitely made me more comfortable in my skin." The nuts and bolts of the self defense are handled by Stern, a 31-year-old performer and teacher whose training comes from a Seattle class called - appropriately - Home Alive. "I teach fundamental verbal and physical boundary-setting techniques," she says, "including where the target points on the body are." Lest you think Stern is all talk, she backs the instruction up with an anecode about getting jumped in Barcelona. "I got attacked by this humungous guy late at night," she says. "We got into a physical brawl and I ended up using all these different techniques."

Not surprisingly, the seminar's combination of sex and fighting know-how strikes some as a bit odd. DooLittle, who also conducts workshops on striptease as well as more graphic sex instruction, sees her and her partner's work as bridging a different, particularly urban dichotomy. "It's hard to get on the subway and be strong everyday. You spend your time trying to keep people from touching you. A woman has to sometimes consciously switch that off when she comes home and wants to be intimate with her partner," she says. "It's hard to strip off all those layers after your mind has been saying 'don't touch me' all day." She and Stern just see it as their mission to teach New York gals that it's OK to be both tough and tantalizing.